Goin' to the chapel, and I'm gonna get married.

Next week at this time I'll be on my way to the church to get married to my girl Kelly.

Sat. Aug. 11th is the "big" day :p

She's put up with me for almost 5 years, we bought a house about a year ago, now it's almost a done deal. :eek:

Reception should be a raucous good time, today was the RSVP dead-line, although I'm sure more will trickle in this week. We got 410 as of now. All my groomsmen, outside of one of my brothers (my other one couldn't be here due to his obligation to the USMC) are buddies I haven't seen in a while. My two old roommates from college are comin in from AZ, two others are driving back as we speak from los angeles, and one's flyin up from miami.

My boss was kind enough to give me thurs & fri. and sat. off work & paid as his wedding gift, plus I have a week's vacation comin to me for the honeymoon. Thursday night is when they're throwin me a little party. As fun as that'll be, I sadly won't be able to post any incriminating picstures. I hope they pony up and make it good, as our circle has thrown two nice prior bashes for our friends when they got hitched. :cool:

Now, for those poor, unfortunate souls who have also been condemned to marriage, any advice? She's a CPA by trade, so she is already incharge of our 'finances,' I get my allowance, and am happy. We already bought a house, all the shit some might do afterwards.

So, once we get married, would that be a good time to bust a dutch-over on her? Maybe piss on the back of her leg in the shower and say it's just the hot water? :confused: What?

 

Congratulations!!...Just be yourself, as you were for the last 5 years with her. Don't let a piece of paper change you....take it a day at a time... and make sure we see pictures pleaseeeeee

 

Congratulations, Kergin.




Hehehehe, just kidding.

 

I wish you the best.

I doubt I ever get married again. It would take a whole lotta persuasion for me to do so.

And 410 people! :eek: I'm glad I'm not footing that bill. We had over 300 & it was a dry wedding & still............. (I'm not about to pay $20+ a person for people to get drunk. My wedding was BYOB )

 

All I can say is don't be surprised if your relationship changes down the road - & likely not for the better. So enjoy that "honey moon" period while you can!

Oh & think very, very carefully about having kids - my husband is getting popped to the tune of $700 a mo. for his 2 whelps.

Also, as a side note, this may sound mean, but having kids can be a death knoll to a marriage - being in the military you see a lot of folks & I've seen tons of marriages break up after they have a kid, usually when the kid was between the ages of 5 & 7.

Other than that, good luck! (you'll need it! lol.)

 

I'm with Mia on this one lol

Once is enough for me, I got Shon out of it so I'm happy

And I also wish you both the best... sometimes a piece of paper can mess up a good relationship

 

Congrats to you both. and i wish you a life time of love together.
i'd say, as far as advice goes, respect one another, talk to each other and not at each other. and accept each other for ALL your unique and individual characteristics and qualities. for, it's when you try to go about "changing" someone, that the trouble begins.
and if you don't want to argue, don't. walk away. remember it ALWAYS takes two to have an arguement. (been with my hub 25 years now...)

Best wishes!

 

PRE-NUP!!!!!!!!! You've got some cahones buddy. I got married when I was 18 and divorced 3 months later. That was more than enough to let me know that sh!t wasnt for me....I hope it all works out for you man, wish ya the best...YIS, D.

 

A life time of love w/ your spouse is one of the greatest gifts God can give someone & I hope you are blessed enough to recieve it.

BUT ... we all change over the years & many times the person you're married to 10 years down the road isn't the person you originally married. She is no longer the implusive sex kitten or he is no longer the patient & loving romantic. Physically she may go from a size 6 to a size 16 & he may go from having a six pack to having a party ball. She may get thunder thighs & he may go bald. So as I said before, be prepared to accept change & accept the new person that both physically & mentally she (& you) will become down the road.

And don't think 5 years together will save you. For reasons unknown to me that little piece of paper will change your relationship a lot.

Holler at us 5 years down the road & let us know how you're doing.

 

congrats there ol buddy,,,lol,,, all of ya'll trashing on the wedding
i've been hitched 14 years, and can't for the life of me ,, run her off if i wanted too,,thats what she said,,,lol,,,,

take it day by day and the paper don't mean ownership,,, remember that and you'll be fine

they all have there speedbumps it's just how you want to deal with them,,

 

I'm in NO way trashing marriage. I think marriage is a wonderful thing. and would honestly love to have been married forever and a day. Mine just didn't work out, but my case was different in that I knew beforehand that I shouldn't go through with it yet I did anyways. It was doomed from the get-go.

I personally don't think a marriage license or a wedding ruins a relationship. As time goes by people do change and if one does not accept it then problems will arise. Compromise is a must. And IMO the most important thing in a marriage behind honesty/truthfulness is communication. Without proper communication, then each will begin to go their own way and not ever truly kow what the other is thinking or feeling.

I wish you the best. Follow your heart and your head and it will all work out great. Congrats!

 

thanks for all of your kind words.



and as for a pre-nup, she'd be the one hittin' me with it. her dad is the bank pres. of a very large operation with a dozen branches in our area.

i'll put up some pics for you all after we get back.

 

boy folks thoughts about marriage have changed over the years.everyone is for shacking up now a days.to me thats whats wrong with the country.i have been married since i was 20 years old no splits no nothing,but then again we didn't shack up either.no living together till you make it legal with the lord.but we got married for the right reasons not just to get married.then we welcomed some children into the world and it only changed us for the better not for the worse.ain't nothing better in the world than children and having a family.but then again we never thought about well when we split up down the road they are gonna cost me this much.we had children because we wanted to have a family and that was that.folks heads today ain't in the right place i swear,congratulations with the marriage and i betcha it will work out pretty good for ya.

 

Congrats and good luck brother. Show us pics whens iot all said and done!

 

I agree 100% and I've only been married almost 3 years.

Personally I think the best piece of advice I can give is to allow yourself (both of you) to constantly change for the better within the relationship- allow yourselves to evolve into better people without resistance or stubborness. Everyone these days seems to be so hardheaded and unwilling to give a little...and that's the only way to keep a relationship together- married or not. Marriage can be wonderful- it's not a flower garden all the time by no means, but I can't imagine my life any other way. My husband is the only man in the world who would put up with my shit, and I'm the only woman in the world who would put up with his. You gotta love the part of her that's a pain in your ass, too. LOL

 

i'm sorry to hear that MIA ,,, i for some unknowm reason thought ya'll had fixed it,,,sorry about that,, and in now way was i meaning ya'll trashing on marriage ,,, was just a figure of speech,,,lol,,, ebonics at work,.,,,lmao

 

it's tomorrow ya'll

*dance*

i'll post some pics up for you all after we get back from the ol' honeymoon.

hopefully the site doesn't blow up in my abscence.

peace.

- kergin

 

my only advice is to listen to folks with successful marriages, those who didn't make it have nothing to offer except planting seeds of doubt in your mind. Things and people do change, but nowadays people are too quick to call it quits over the first difference they have.

 

Wow, not too many marriage advocates around here...for the record my marriage didn't work out either, but I don't regret one minute of it ...however that will be the last time I take that trip down the aisle...

Anyway, Kergin Best Wishes!! Hope you have a lifetime of happiness together! Can't wait to see the pics!

 

enjoy!
and it'll be whatever you both make of it!