I know im probably crazy but i cant help it

[jada girl]

As you guys know the baby (which my girlfriend is havingLOL) is coming soon.
But i want another dog and im going to get one. It going to hard but hey all good things are. anyways i want a good house dog a pet doesnt have to be the baddest bloodline or anything like that cause with the baby i can't spend that much. If anybody can point me in the right direction for a good affordable dog. i would love a boy since i have a girl. And no tooo large. i can get them in jersey of the street for like fifty but refuse to do that. any help would be greatly appreciate. THANK YOU IN ADVANCE

[Devin]

As you guys know the baby (which my girlfriend is havingLOL) is coming soon.
But i want another dog and im going to get one. It going to hard but hey all good things are. anyways i want a good house dog a pet doesnt have to be the baddest bloodline or anything like that cause with the baby i can't spend that much. If anybody can point me in the right direction for a good affordable dog. i would love a boy since i have a girl. And no tooo large. i can get them in jersey of the street for like fifty but refuse to do that. any help would be greatly appreciate. THANK YOU IN ADVANCE
If you are just looking for a house dog and a pet. I would recommend you rescue. There are plenty of good dogs that have ended up in the shelters.

[jada girl]

I Tried To Adopt But I Want A Apbt And All Of The Morons In New Jersey Make It Almost Impossible The Regulations Are Crazy. Good Owners Like Me Have A Hard Time Adopting

[Devin]

I Tried To Adopt But I Want A Apbt And All Of The Morons In New Jersey Make It Almost Impossible The Regulations Are Crazy. Good Owners Like Me Have A Hard Time Adopting
I know that it can be hard to adopt from some rescues. Have you tried adopting from a bigger shelter. It is sometimes easier to adopt from there. They usually just require that the dog be altered.

[jada girl]

I Have Been To Every Rescue That I Know Of In North New Jersey. They Just Give People Hard Times With Apbt Or Am Staff Its Such B.s.

[Attila]

I am sure some one from the site out your way will chime in. Is this your baby as well? And if so or not is it the first one? Not one of my funny moments right now so there isn't any laughing right now. I had a child briefly she died. But while she was alive and fighting. It took great expence. Are you sure you should not wait till at least after the baby is born? you'll be buying diapers, cloths, shoes and all sorts of stuff. It adds up and fast. And feed can get into the pocket as well. No judgement from me. Just think it over is all. Ok? Nothing more nothing less just a good think upon it for a month or two. Thanks WB

[jada girl]

Yea I Asked For Opinions About That (waiting For The Baby) And Got Mixed Reviews. But It All I Can Think About. So Sorry To Hear About Your Daughter.

[CB]

My honest opinion is i think you should hold off on getting a new dog in the house. With a baby on its way you will have to much stuff going on with the baby and wont have enough time for the dog like you would like to have. I just say wait about a year and then get a pup.

[jada girl]

If I Get A New Pup In A Year Im Afraid It Will Not Get Along With My Pup Know I Was Trying To Get Them Together As Pups. Also Me And My Girlfriend Live Together So Ther Will Be Help. I Cant Stop Thinking About A Pup But Dont Wanna Make A Bad Decision

[LuvinBullies]

I am sure some one from the site out your way will chime in. Is this your baby as well? And if so or not is it the first one? Not one of my funny moments right now so there isn't any laughing right now. I had a child briefly she died. But while she was alive and fighting. It took great expence. Are you sure you should not wait till at least after the baby is born? you'll be buying diapers, cloths, shoes and all sorts of stuff. It adds up and fast. And feed can get into the pocket as well. No judgement from me. Just think it over is all. Ok? Nothing more nothing less just a good think upon it for a month or two. Thanks WBI am a hypocrite because I bought a puppy when I was 7 months pregnant, but I do agree with Attila. You will thank yourself later if you wait. Post partum can be a crazy thing, and your girl and baby NEED you. Plus, if this is your first, you have no idea how in love you are about to be. You will be so in love with that baby, you may find you aren't spending the time with the puppy you want to, and you will start feeling guilty. OR you will find yourself spending too much time with the puppy instead of the baby in the eyes of the mother. Believe you me you don't want to irritate post partum hormones...they can be unpredictable no matter how level headed the mother is. A close friend of mine really went loopty loo post partum- and up until then she was cool as a cucumber throughout her whole pregnancy.
I'm tempted to say it's a potentially volatile situation, and either mom, baby or the puppy will probably end up odd man out occasionally, and you will be spread mighty thin. The best advice I can offer is this- wait until your sleep schedule evens out and everyone is adapted to the new arrival. It's the most fair thing to do for mom, baby, puppy and yourself. It's really a super special time, you should absorb every last drop of it.

[realonebulldog]

As you guys know the baby (which my girlfriend is havingLOL) is coming soon.
But i want another dog and im going to get one. It going to hard but hey all good things are. anyways i want a good house dog a pet doesnt have to be the baddest bloodline or anything like that cause with the baby i can't spend that much. If anybody can point me in the right direction for a good affordable dog. i would love a boy since i have a girl. And no tooo large. i can get them in jersey of the street for like fifty but refuse to do that. any help would be greatly appreciate. THANK YOU IN ADVANCEYou talk about a baby iscomin soon and then you sayd you need a new dog.....serious grow up! The most important thing on earth are kids, we have enough people who care more about a dog than a child.

[LuvinBullies]

I Cant Stop Thinking About A Pup But Dont Wanna Make A Bad DecisionSorry to double post, but I wanted to use your quote as an example of why I am trying to persuade you to wait. You obviously have some doubt as to whether or not getting a pup is a good idea, and you should ride with that. When in doubt, DON"T!
You really should devote all your available time to the new baby, and definitely NOT expect the new mom to help with the puppy. It 's a mathematical certainty that -a or many- arguments will ensue. Take your time, adjust, and at least get to know your little one. Think about it this way: If things are gravy train and go easy peasy after the baby comes home, you can ALWAYS think about planning for a puppy soon. However, if you go ahead and get the puppy, there really is no turning back if things get rough. That's not really fair to anyone involved, eh?

[Attila]

I am a hypocrite because I bought a puppy when I was 7 months pregnant, but I do agree with Attila. You will thank yourself later if you wait. Post partum can be a crazy thing, and your girl and baby NEED you. Plus, if this is your first, you have no idea how in love you are about to be. You will be so in love with that baby, you may find you aren't spending the time with the puppy you want to, and you will start feeling guilty. OR you will find yourself spending too much time with the puppy instead of the baby in the eyes of the mother. Believe you me you don't want to irritate post partum hormones...they can be unpredictable no matter how level headed the mother is. A close friend of mine really went loopty loo post partum- and up until then she was cool as a cucumber throughout her whole pregnancy.
I'm tempted to say it's a potentially volatile situation, and either mom, baby or the puppy will probably end up odd man out occasionally, and you will be spread mighty thin. The best advice I can offer is this- wait until your sleep schedule evens out and everyone is adapted to the new arrival. It's the most fair thing to do for mom, baby, puppy and yourself. It's really a super special time, you should absorb every last drop of it.That is for sure that first moment you spend holding that baby will set the rest of your life. It is the most precious thing ever. And don't you forget it. Every thing in life can be gone in a flash of a second. There isn't a day or moment I don't think about that time. I would give anything in the world to have a child. And get to raise it. Play, go fishing, hunting mess witht he dogs, fix on one of my old hot rods. and to leave every thing to when I go on to be with my Maker. Dogs come and go. Family is for life. Even if they die. Oh you remember gogs but a baby is like getting a tattoo in your brain. Once second to hold her again I would gladly give my life for one second.

Oh yah and man up and marry that woman she is going to be the mother of your child. Do right by her.

[ABK]

With all due respect friend, you should wait. Once the baby is here you will forget all about wanting a puppy. And if you impulse buy now everyone will be hurt - mom, pup & baby.

As for rescues not wanting to deal w/ you, it can be hard. They want the absolute best for the dog & I'm gonna tell you right now something you're not going to want to hear - your having a kid & not being married to the mom looks bad. Remember, actions speak louder than words & no matter what you say or tell the rescue ppl your actions will be broadcasting to them loud & clear that you are probably irresponsible, potentially unstable & don't have the gumption to make a real commitment.

So you'll have one strike against you from jump street. And if you are young & don't own your home that will make it even harder. But it can be done. You just have to take the time to look. Try PBRC. They have links to hundreds of rescues that house thousands of dogs who need homes. I'm sure you could find a rescue willing to look kindly on you.

However I still think it would be in eveyone's best interest if you wait.

[realonebulldog]

That is for sure that first moment you spend holding that baby will set the rest of your life. It is the most precious thing ever. And don't you forget it. Every thing in life can be gone in a flash of a second. There isn't a day or moment I don't think about that time. I would give anything in the world to have a child. And get to raise it. Play, go fishing, hunting mess witht he dogs, fix on one of my old hot rods. and to leave every thing to when I go on to be with my Maker. Dogs come and go. Family is for life. Even if they die. Oh you remember gogs but a baby is like getting a tattoo in your brain. Once second to hold her again I would gladly give my life for one second.

Oh yah and man up and marry that woman she is going to be the mother of your child. Do right by her. LOL....remember Attila you are not 80 or 90 ......you dont know wich plans god has made for you.Maybe he sayd that you are a good dog and you should produce some litter....

[Attila]

LOL....remember Attila you are not 80 or 90 ......you dont know wich plans god has made for you.Maybe he sayd that you are a good dog and you should produce some litter....
No I am not. But I am half way there .Lol Mish gutten hund, Ya das ist shur gutt/ Nicsht Kinder misht hund. lol Go to jail for that here. lol God Willing Maybe some day I will through a good one eh. lol You made me laugh on that one.

[FearlessKnight]

You talk about a baby iscomin soon and then you sayd you need a new dog.....serious grow up! The most important thing on earth are kids, we have enough people who care more about a dog than a child.
And I am one of them....I would rather have my dogs anyday....How does the old saying go? "The more people I meet, the more I love my dogs"

But as far as another puppy goes, I have to agree with everyone on waiting just a little bit....puppies need a lot of attention too! But then again, there is nobody that knows you better than YOU!

[Attila]

And I am one of them....I would rather have my dogs anyday....How does the old saying go? "The more people I meet, the more I love my dogs"

But as far as another puppy goes, I have to agree with everyone on waiting just a little bit....puppies need a lot of attention too! But then again, there is nobody that knows you better than YOU!
Well I suppose most can say that. I don't know me at all. I thought I did then I retired and figured out Me is something to deal with because Me don't fit in the Civilian world, so I have to make a new me. One that tollerates the civilian world or at least stays out of trouble in it. Some times when you are young or old and your world isn't settled you don't know you at all. See what I am saying?:confused:

[Riptora]

I am young, have two kids and had dogs the whole time. I also say that you need to wait. You have NO EARTHLY CLUE what you are about to experience. Think all you want, you can't possibly understand until it happens. The least you can do is wait until after the baby is born, it will only take a few hours for you to understand what I am saying!

Maybe there is a reason you haven't found that pup yet! You need to wait a little, trust us who have been there! Be a man and be patient!

[miakoda]

Having just had a baby, I strongly urge you to put the idea on hold. Here's why:

Everything was going good in my pregnancy (besides the everyday 5 times a day puking :mad: ) & we expected nothing to ever go wrong. We also have 13 dogs that we are responsible for & I was having a blast being home all day (I'm used to working 10 hr days) & spending that time with the dogs. But on a Monday I went for a normal checkup 6 weeks before my due date. Guess what? I was admitted into the hospital straight from the dr's office due to extremely high blood pressure & losing protein...I had preeclampsia (tests showed my liver & kidneys were beginning to fail meaning that the baby's were sure to follow). Anyways, I was horrified. There I was all alone with my husband at work (he doesn't get home till 8 pm or after). But my big concern was the dogs. What was I to do with them? How were they going to get fed & watered? I knew they needed me but to have gone back home to them would've risked the life of my child. So guess what? Baby comes first. I went into the hospital being told I would be there at least 3 weeks. Great. Now the dogs were really screwed as my husband does nothing with them & doesn't care to. My baby ended up being delivered that same week on Thurs. night by emergency c-section as things weren't going well for me or him. Well, after that surgery, I had to spend another 4 days in the hospital. Then, Cole had to stay in the NICU for a little over a week so that was more time that I was away from home & not being able to do anything with the dogs other than feed & water. Now, we were very fortunate that a good friend came & picked up some the dogs & took them to his yard. The 3 non-APBTs went to a vet clinic for boarding (where my friend is the vet) & they only charged us $14/day for a large run (the normal price is $20). Well, take that $14/day charge, multiply it by 3 for each dog & then by 8 because that's how many days they stayed. That's $336 much needed dollars that went to that.

Anyways, once the baby got home, I was averaging an hour of sleep in a 24 hour period. Your too busy feeding the baby, holding the baby (ours has reflux & must be held upright after feeding for a min. of 30 minutes), changing the baby, calming the fussy baby, changing diapers, changing outfits after he/she pukes everywhere, washing & sterilizing endless amounts of bottles. Forget showering or feeding yourself unless you have family that will come cook for you & help you out. 7 weeks later I'm now averaging 3-4 hrs of sleep in a 24 hr period & still don't have any time to myself. The only real time I have to spend with the dogs is when I feed them. I haven't had the time to train any of them, condition any of them....hell, they don't even get walked right now.

On top of all that, we got our first hospital bill for $20,465 (for me) that was quickly followed by Cole's which was for $53, 778. Now, those are just from the hospital & we are now receiving the smaller bills like from the Pediatric Cardiology which saw Cole while he was in the NICU & those bills range from $50 to $2,000. Also, (not to gross guys out here) breastfeeding is cheap but if she doesn't want to or can't, then I can promise you you'll spend on average $50 a week on formula alone if not more. Diapers will cost you about $40 a week & God knows what medications & everything else costs.

You can tell yourself all day long you can handle it & everything will be alright. And it might work out for you. But in the event that the baby comes early, or your girlfriend has complications, or the baby has complications, that puppy will be forgotten during the most crucial point in his life (he needs you, he needs constant training & socialization, etc.). Nothing ever works out like you have in mind or intend for it too. I too wanted to get a new pup while towards the end of the pregnancy but I'm glad I didn't b/c that pup would've gotten no attention for the first few months of his life & those dogs end up being problem dogs the majority of the time. Plus, it would'nt have been fair.

So, to be fair to a new puppy but also to your child & girlfriend & even yourself, wait. Get a feel for what it will be like taking care of your child & get a budget going then make your move.

Hope all goes well.

[FearlessKnight]

Well I suppose most can say that. I don't know me at all. I thought I did then I retired and figured out Me is something to deal with because Me don't fit in the Civilian world, so I have to make a new me. One that tollerates the civilian world or at least stays out of trouble in it. Some times when you are young or old and your world isn't settled you don't know you at all. See what I am saying?:confused:
Poor Attila, are you alright? :( ...............oh lord, That must have been a blonde moment, I think I just got it, I guess I had forgotten what I said......Attila................YOU ARE CRAZY.....BUT WE ALL LOVE IT! :D

[maryellen1]

jadagirl, if you cant afford a baby you cant afford another dog. is the dog you have now tied outside? most rescues in nj will not adopt to passaic,paterson, newark, the oranges, livingston, areas due to the dogfighting and dog stealing.

the only reputable pit bull rescue in nj is rawhide rescue in greenbrook nj.

also, who will take care of the dog while you are at work? your girlfriend with a newborn baby? you cant put the responsibility of 2 dogs on her with a newborn, that is being selfish on your part.

[newbieturtlepits]

well guy you heard if from many ... so hope you read and digested the best they had to give... its not feasable to get a new puppy with new baby coming when you said you wanted something cheap because you have baby coming and know you have costs.. what ever happen to saving up for baby and woman to have a good life... if you think you aint got money now.....wait ....it gets alot tougher and why would you put yourself even in the position of smacking your head thinking ......dang .. what was i thinking... do it right the first time.. and you wont have do overs... wait and wait some more .. if your heart is open now it will be open then.. decisions like this are serious... i know a guy says his dogs and litters are his hobby...eck.. all them pups hes gonna make for what?? if you are top dog in the house all new ones will follow along and get along with the proper training..

attila .. i too am half way .. thinking some day gonna have me a nice dinner with a man... then ofcourse i see what my area has to offer and i have a nice dinner with my doggs .... sad , but true.. i love them ...hoping later i get a nice piece of property and make my own lil world as have you... blessing to you... time for shower yall back later

[laurajean]

All we can do for Jada girl is offer the benefit of our experience in the school of hard knocks. Then Jada will probably do whatever. How many people do you know who learned things the "easy way"? Judgement is what you get from experience and experience is what you get from bad judgement...Oh please wait!!
Just learn one thing the "easy way". You can always get a dog later...or a pup. Good wishes and hope everything turns out for the best...

[Patch O' Pits]

If I Get A New Pup In A Year Im Afraid It Will Not Get Along With My Pup Know I Was Trying To Get Them Together As Pups. Also Me And My Girlfriend Live Together So Ther Will Be Help. I Cant Stop Thinking About A Pup But Dont Wanna Make A Bad Decision
WEll as for the dogs not getting along... raising them together is no guarantee that they will like each other as they mature. That is just something you may or may not have to deal with down the road

[Riptora]

I notice that SO often that many pregnent women want very badly to get a puppy when they are far into the pregnency. I see and hear this ALL the time! You know why? It's because the mama hormones kicked in and that mama wants something, little, soft and cute to nurture! I always think "Awww, how cute! the mama switch has been turned on... hope they hold off on that puppy..."

[catcher T]

Attila,,I am so sorry that happened to u and your baby,,that is a tough one no doubt

Mia,,I didn't know that whole story,,wow,,good thing u are strong,,spank that kid when he is old enough to understand what he put u through,,LOL

hold off on a puppy until u know u are secure in your life and u can afford all that u need for your growing family,,u got your whole life for lots of puppies

[Attila]

Poor Attila, are you alright? :( ...............oh lord, That must have been a blonde moment, I think I just got it, I guess I had forgotten what I said......Attila................YOU ARE CRAZY.....BUT WE ALL LOVE IT! :D
Umm ok thanks. lol I am glad you all love it. Hate to be normal and not loved. I like loved that is great..

newbieturtlepits,

Ah why would you want to have dinner with some ole hairy man. I had dinner with me tonight and the dogs and it wasn't all that special. You are not missing any thing lol. thanks. I have a good life. You go get that shower and I will pray that I don't stay awake one more night. It has been five days that I have not slept period. I tried a few times just laid there looking at the walls. I hate quiet time.


Catcher T,

It is ok. I have a beautiful flower garden planted with a Cross in the middle to remind me of those times. I often say a Rosary there in the morning when I take out the dogs. Still was a gift in my heart. It was short but it was there too the same. No worries.

[polecat]

that is one of the most level headed statements i have heard in a long time. good for you mam,good luck with your new baby

[LuvinBullies]

I notice that SO often that many pregnent women want very badly to get a puppy when they are far into the pregnency. I see and hear this ALL the time! You know why? It's because the mama hormones kicked in and that mama wants something, little, soft and cute to nurture! I always think "Awww, how cute! the mama switch has been turned on... hope they hold off on that puppy..."BINGO!!! And in the worst case scenarios, some mothers-to-be have even been known to put a snuggly wuggly $2,500 weanling scarlet macaw parrot on layaway right before getting a pittie puppy. What idiot would do such a thing you ask? Man, I had that nesting mess BAD!:)
While all four parrots, four dogs, one rabbit and human baby are fine, sassy and happy, I'd be a big fat liar if I said it was easy-or well thought out, for that matter. My husband was thrilled to death, and never, EVER complained about my impeccable timing to add more mouths to feed.(HA!) He was a good sport, though- sometimes.:rolleyes: Who could blame the ol' boy?

[realonebulldog]

Well I suppose most can say that. I don't know me at all. I thought I did then I retired and figured out Me is something to deal with because Me don't fit in the Civilian world, so I have to make a new me. One that tollerates the civilian world or at least stays out of trouble in it. Some times when you are young or old and your world isn't settled you don't know you at all. See what I am saying?:confused: Believe it or not....yes E X A C T L Y

[Riptora]

Mia - You're one tough cookie! The thing I learned most from having my son ( the second child ) is that I was absolutely astonished as to how much the human body could take! My first was completely different, not very painful, I had endorphines all the way ( both births were natural, in the home with midwives ). My second... well... I'm suprised I didn't faint from agony. I'm suprised I didn't die. I bet you could handle just about anything now, huh?

Attila - I too am sorry for your loss. I can't imagine. I hope I never, ever, ever have to travel that road. You are incredibly strong in the heart and soul!

[newbieturtlepits]

jadagirl, if you cant afford a baby you cant afford another dog. is the dog you have now tied outside? most rescues in nj will not adopt to passaic,paterson, newark, the oranges, livingston, areas due to the dogfighting and dog stealing.

the only reputable pit bull rescue in nj is rawhide rescue in greenbrook nj.

also, who will take care of the dog while you are at work? your girlfriend with a newborn baby? you cant put the responsibility of 2 dogs on her with a newborn, that is being selfish on your part.

i checked jada' comments and seems jada is all dog thinking right now, and the kennel question shows that.. i would very much like to read something from the woman in the baby mode .. jada- how does she feel truly about the thoughts you have been having about adding more stress to the home and future hopeful ideas of a possible kennel if you can get it together as , money seems to be an issue.. even people with lots of money run into high costs , think it over and get mature enough to make all the right decisions , making some decision to buy a cheap pup when a baby is coming isnt very mature and wont serve the family structure.. make your plans for future if both parties are in agreement.. then every day and i do mean everyday you make one step toward that dream.. no matter what that step is .. you make that one step and you will get there... good luck with new event .. hope baby make you think in better lines .. ohhh , like maybe get college fund for baby or further your own education so you can get more money in work to build your dreams..... blessings

[jada girl]

i have know clue how money became the topic of the thread but it shouldnt be. the reason i said i dont want to be a 1300 dollar dog is because it is alot of money to spend with a baby coming.not that dont have it. (which is a smart decision) hey i might need it.
2nd off i have a college education. people on this board get a lil carried away with there remarks should learn to watch what they say. this post is not because people said i should wait fore i have came to the same conclusion. this post is about people speculating and getting way off the subjects of dogs and into people personal life in which they have no clue what they are talking about.